To Forgive or Not To Forgive

                                                It is human nature to look into everything from our own point of view. Most of the times we refuse to accept what others are trying to say. We add our own meanings and perceptions to it. That makes the matter worse. Somethings are said to us and most other things we presume that they meant to say. It happens that many a times people may say good things to us, about us, but it may not be the same each time. On many occasions we have to face criticism too.

                                             We accept  appreciation and good comments readily and wholeheartedly. But the brickbats are highly unacceptable. We feel elated when somebody shower praise  and admire us. On the other hand our soul is shattered by the shards of harsh words and blunt criticism. And when that happens, we carry that insult for years and years to come. As a result, we are never at peace with that erring person and our own selves too. Actually, when we recall that insult or talk to someone about it, each time we go through the same amount of grief and agony that we went through for the very first time.This is the main cause of pain as it goes on multiplying every time we are reminded of it.

                                           In order to save our selves from the hurt we need to forgive the wrong doer and relieve our souls from the never ending misery. It does not mean that we want to reconcile with them, rather it means we want to heal our sore soul and be in peace with it. To forgive we need to understand their situation and behavior. Once we do that and agree to that we are ready to forgive the blameworthy and forget the hurt caused by them. 

                                           And believe me, forgiving someone is not an easy task at all. You need a whole lot of courage to do that. It is quite difficult to say that you forgive someone who has caused so mush pain in your life because it is not easy to forget all the trouble and discomfort it resulted in. But life is like that. It is full of challenges. And to forgive is one of its challenges which we face and win over. 

                                           We need to remember here that we don't forgive for their sake but we do it for our own-selves. It is another dilemma that we seldom do anything for our own sake. our whole lives are spent on pleasing others, doing things for others. What about our own self? This is the best thing that we can do to heal our souls from wearing out and save ourselves from lot of trouble. So forgiveness is one of the greatest gift that we can give to ourselves. Keep forgiving and enjoy the life that has been granted to you.......