Accept your self as you are...

                               To accept yourself as you actually are can be one of the most difficult things to do. It is so because all of us have a general tendency to see ourselves through other's eyes. We start comparing with others. And we are stuck with the million dollar question-- Main aisa kyun hoon? Ironically the answer to this question lies in the next line of this famous song-- Jaisa hoon , main waisa hi hoon.. 

                               

 We are as we are, so we need to accept that. The conflict is there because we don't accept the reality. We are always trying to fill the gaps, covering the flaws, we create mess of us, for us. We have many a times seen that cinema stars adopt all sorts of measures to look more beautiful and stay young forever. They go for all types of body enhancing surgeries and many other such treatments. Some one will go after a nose job or a lip job or will do a face lift or so. Such experiments are not always successful. We have seen that sometimes they look ugly. Many people like me wonder why do they need such operations? The reason is that they are not happy with their own looks which others may die for. 

                         

 God has made everyone a distinct creature. Everyone has their own physical traits. He has not made any two humans alike. So how can we compare one with the other. All these are actually products of our thoughts. Dark skinned people want lighter tone of their skins . On the other hand white people go after tanning their skins, they love to have dark color on them. So what color is better white or black or brown. Micheal Jackson, who was one of the most successful singers of the world, was unhappy with his skin color. He went under so many treatments which in turn took his life.

                         

  This happens when we do no accept what we are, how we look. We look at ourselves form others point of view. And we think that our present version is not good enough. Hence all these forced changes happen. Many a times these changes too cant bring satisfaction. So when we accept ourselves as we are that brings mental peace and the sense of satisfaction prevails. We stop being loggerheads with ourselves. There many things in our lives which we have to fight for and if we are fighting with our own self too, that makes our lives more miserable. 

 

Thus just be happy with yourself as you are......

Relationship goals

                                                                         When Aristotle said "man is a social animal" he meant that we humans can survive only when we are surrounded by people who help us, support us. In other words it can be said that we need a support system to grow and to survive. We cannot live on our own. Our total existence right from the birth to death we need people for support. A lone fish has no life  at all.

                                                                       We depend on others socially, financially, economically and above all emotionally. For that purpose we need to maintain our relation with our family and friends and relatives and colleagues  and neighbor and all the other people who we come across during our lifetime. Each relation can have a different set off emotions attached to it . 

                                                                        

So it can be said that each relation demands a separate set of rules, a separate kind of treatment. This is because each one of our relation has a distinct personality and its own demands from time to time. Such need are to be catered timely and without fail.any delay may cost a  good relation. Relations are like plants which need care and love from time to time. Just as a plant would die without sufficient water, oxygen and sunlight, relations would also die if we don't care about them or pay attention to them or love them. 

                                                                         

  One more thing... giving space in any relationship is all the more necessary for the survival of any relationship. It is one of the key ingredients of any fast relationship. Be it husband wife relation or  friends or parents or siblings..any relation.. they need some space to breathe and grow. Every relation must have freedom. Our relations should not be burdened by our love and care and over protection.

                                                                      

 Every thing in our lives need to be prioritize accordingly . We can nurture them or end them if we do not  compartmentalize them as per their needs. So if we want those relations to stay in our lives then we need to work on them and give more attention to them and divide our time accordingly. And if we don't want certain people to be their we just need to ignore them and they will be out in no time. 

                                                                 

   All the more important thing in any relationship is that it works both ways. Single side can never be held responsible for its success. One sided efforts can not keep it alive. Both sides are equally responsible for it. One way traffic of bonding cannot keep it together. 

                                                                

  So ... healthy relationship needs a right attitude, right effort, and that too with right person or persons. This should be our relationship goal..................