Nothing changes like change

It is always said that change is the spice of life .. and the change comes in all shapes and sizes, in all the forms, all the times and all the aspects of life. There are many times in our lives when we think that nothing is changing but if we see a little bit carefully, lots of things have gone through the process of change.

Let's take example of traveling. There has been drastic advancement in the means and modes of transport. From speed to the looks of transportation, a lot has got under the change. I still remember as a kid when we use to travel, there was no need for reservation of seats in the train.  Simply we needed to go and occupy the seats and that's all. Gave a happy and safe journey. But one thing is for sure that the speed and the loom of the railways was something else. If we sit back and ponder over such memories we realise that we have certainly come a long way....

In between years things have  modified on lot. Slowly and steadily population increase and with that there was a stress on the trains also. As a result booking of seats became a compulsory thing. Lots of changes were there in the coaches which catered to the needs of the travellers.  In the mean time we also started doing that.

Now the scene has become more complicated. It has become almost impossible to travel without making reservation in the trains. That too if it is long journey and also along with family and friends. We too have shifted from sleeper class to A//C sleeper. Now we too travel with class. And even by air too. 

The people around us however remain the same. By same I mean all types of co passengers who were there in the A/C class compartment then and even now when we travel ac coach . There no change in variety of people. Some are very friendly and will be always ready to share their space with you. While there are others too who refuse to budge a little because it is their seat. They forget that every body has to get off the train, leave the compartment and the co passengers behind and get off at their respective destinations. There are kids, there  are old people, then there are people of all the colors and habits.

So it  won't be wrong to say that 

There is nothing so constant as  change itself 

Letting go...

In our lifetime we meet many people, who play their part in forming us, making us. Sometimes the experience is good but at times we may not be that lucky. Whatever the case may be, we never forget the experience. It remains etched in our minds for a long, long time. If the experience is bad i.e. they have harmed us mentally or physically, it remains with us lifelong. We are bruised for life. Sometimes the wounds cut so deep that it takes forever to heal. No matter how much the time passes the memory of that horrible incident fills our hearts with the same amount of bitterness. We are filled with the same hurt and grief.

At such moments we are asked to 'let go'. Sometimes we do that without actually knowing the meaning of 'letting it go'.  It seems that we have let the pain and the hurt go but most of the times it is not so. It remains with us whole time. The hurt and the agony it has caused never ceases.  It remains there and never goes away. We bleed every time when we remember that particular person or incident. Every time we suffer the same sadness. It is just like as if someone has hit us with a stone and we are bleeding. He goes away after  striking us one time. And what we do? Instead of healing and tending to the wound we pick the same stone and keep on hitting on the same spot. Which is why the soreness never goes. It is actually us that causes more suffering.

What actually happens is that we never let it go. We are still holding to it. We are still holding the hurt tightly. So what really letting something go means? It is accepting the fact that someone has hurt us bad in the past. And saying that yes he has hurt me, but that was in the past. Why am i carrying the burden of something which was told to me some time back? We just need to tend to it and put that away. Flush it away. We simply need to do that. Believe me, the pain will cease. 

This is a process which we must learn to keep peace with ourselves. This is letting go. We will not feel the hurt and even forget it at some point of time. That person or that incident become non existent to you. No more tears well up in your eyes . No more rushes of anger . It can be difficult in the beginning but once you build a habit it becomes easy. It will become an essential part of your life. 

This does not mean that people will stop hurting us. No, certainly not. We will be hurt and tortured. But we will be at peace as everytime someone is mean to us we will keep on letting it go. In this way every time the pain will go in no time. You will free yourself from the burden of something that was said or done to you in the past. The memory of that horrible incident will not bring tears in your eyes anymore. When that happens... be sure that you have let it go. 

Just like that...

Happiness lies in 'letting it go'

It is bliss

It is mental peace

Sheer calmness....