Growing through Change

 It is always said that change is not the enemy but a silent teacher. It is one of the major constants in our lives. Whether we accept it or not, welcome it or resist it, it exists, it continues to unfold before us, Things change, situations change. and so do the people. It happens not because life is unstable but because life is always on the move.  

Things tend to change, sometimes quietly, sometimes suddenly. one may feel that everything that is going in life [n a smooth manner and in a jiffy, things take a sudden turn, that change can be for bettre or for worse, only time will tell. Change may not always be comfortable, but one thing is sure that it is meaningful. the things which seem to be permanent part of life often turn slowly into memories. Time always moves ahead and so do people and things associated with them. Things, when they change, may bring clarity to the matters. 

Situations are circumstances or conditions, as we may find ourselves in at any given time. they are influenced by so many factors such as our environment, our choices, our responsibilities, our health preferences or even our relationships etc. Sometimes time is also a determiner of changes that happen around us. It is not who we are or what we are but where we are at a particular point of time. 

The alterations in the situations maybe seen or sometimes they may be invisible. What may look like everlasting today, can or will fade away tomorrow. It can transform into something else. And actually, when we comprehend that that everything is short lived and evolving, we stop being defined by them. A bad moment does not define the whole scenario. The change in situations teaches us patience, build resilience, bring up confidence, open our perspectives. We begin to realize that the situation is the not the whole story, It is only a small part of the big picture. They make us or break us. better to use this change in a better way, to grow stronger and wiser version of ourselves.

And, when other things are changing, how can people fall behind? People often grow, evolve, move to different directions. It is not always necessary that people move apart only because of some conflict or contradiction. It may be because of education, job, transfer, or even in search of better opportunities. In fact, we often expect people to remain the same, behave in the similar manner, have same outlook forever, that is, we want to see them as we met them the first day. but in reality, people do change, rather they evolve as they grow in life and experience a lot of things. sometimes they closer, sometimes they move apart, sometime become kinder. Whatever the change may be, but this is for real that they outgrow their old versions of themselves.

Truth is that the world around us is ever-changing. it is transforming every day. everything... values, culture, technology... everything keeps shifting. The things that seem impossible become common. Such changes bring development, progress and new beginnings. If we hold to older versions, it will result only in irritation and anger and frustration. 

Instead of opposing or fearing the change, go along with it. Life becomes easy when go with the flow and start trusting the process. They changes build us slowly and strengthen our foundation of life. we must choose to see change as life lessons that allows us to move through our lives with courage and clarity.....

Be gentle with yourself

                                 We often hear this phrase..... " Be kind to others". Actually, it is a good habit to inculcate. But have we ever thought of "Be kind to your own self." Just as the saying goes... Charity always begins at home. If we are not kind enough to our own selves, how can we offer grace to others? Kindness towards others is praiseworthy, but isn't it worth listening to one's own self, if not always, at least once in a while? Actually, it is to be done more often. It is like loving onwards, not outward.

                                  Being good to yourself does not equate to being selfish or indulgent. No, certainly not. It's about acknowledging your worth, listening to your needs, and treating yourself with the same compassion as you do to others. Self-care includes giving compliments to yourself when nobody is looking. It is not a luxury but a necessity, a quiet strength, as we need to take care of ourselves, too.

                                     It is often said that true beauty radiates from within. and being good to your own is in itself an act of kindness. If you are at peace with yourself, happy in your own, it will reflect on your face. Self-respect cleanses our soul and mind, and body.  The energy of those who are in awe of their own 

dispel a different type of aura. You can also say no to save your self-respect without feeling guilty. When you hold adoration for your emotions, a glow appears on your face.

                                        Learn to say  I am worthy, I am allowed to make mistakes, and then learn from those mistakes. It's good to be your own critic, but there is a fine line between being a critic and being rude.  Your inner voice may be quite loud and negative we just need to tone it down. Be gentle with yourself. Here's what we are not talking about self-pity pity but self-respect. We need to say this time and again... I am doing the best I can, and that's enough.

                                              One more aspect of self-love is taking rest whenever and wherever needed. It is not being lazy and lethargic. Rest is part of your routine that you need to break through the monotony of work. And taking rest is not committing blasphemy. You are a soul in a human body, and it is human to take rest. Taking a pause from your routine is not a crazy thing to do, but rather a wise decision to recharge your batteries, getting ready for new challenges. 

                                                      Another major thing that we can do for ourselves is not to run after perfection. Because Perfection is an Illusion. There is so much beauty in imperfection. It is about getting everything right,  in perfect order. It is about being real. And real means flaws, blunders, and making mistakes. The main thing is to get up every time you fall and learn to move ahead and grow from your fumbles. It is more than okay to be imperfect. 

                                                  Last but not least thing is to find joy in the little things of life. We must learn to enjoy morning tea, walking in a cool breeze, and raindrops falling on our faces. We must smile too often to enjoy the present moment. Even reading a good book can alleviate our mood and work wonders for us. These small gestures are not small at all - these are life-saving.

                    So, beginning from today, Be Gentle to Yourself. Say only good things to yourself. Be soft with your heart. Nourish your soul. Because you are beautiful. You deserve all the best things in your life. Just because YOU ARE WORTH IT>

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Self Care is Therapy

Life can get a little or sometimes a lot overwhelming. There are so many things to do, so many goals to achieve, so many deadlines to meet or so many expectations to have. There are pilings of emotions and responsibilities that pull us in every possible direction. We deal with all these effectively and tactfully. The only thing that gets forgotten or often neglected is our own self. 

               And which is why self care has become more than necessity. In the world that is constantly demanding our attention, energy, and time self care takes us back to our own self. It is our decision to protect our peace, respect and needs and choose our own well being unapologetically. 

                 Mind you, self care not only means having face masks and spas and baths everytime, it is whole lot more than that. Though these rituals matter. An occasional warm bath, a slow cup of tea, even a skin care routine can have a lot soothing effect. But self care include a tonne more than that. It needn't be a big, fancy, or perfect. It's a small, loving ways you return to yourself - daily. It can be a deep breath, a moment of silence or a hard NO, it c-o-u-n-t-s.

              Saying NO is an art to refuse to do something without hurting someone. It's a way of telling others what you want. And for this, you must know first hand what you want so that you can see that you are not getting it. You have to know your values. There is right or wrong way to do this. Just make sure that you are honest, uncompromising, and not under anyone's influence.

              Next comes stepping away from toxic people and their conversations that take away your peace of mind. Don't take everything to heart, don't make every conversation  personal. You need to understand that such people's behaviour arises from their own issues and not a reflection of you. 

               Self-care includes listening to your self, catering to your own needs, your own emotions. And when you begin to do that you experience a different kind of calmness prevailing in your mind. In the process you start pinpointing the emotions that are hindering your tranquility. Just as you start recognising the things which are stopping you, you will slowly have your power back. And then your peace will be your own and not dependent on anyone else. 

                You may have noticed till now that self care is not at all about being selfish. It is for the survival. It is supposed to be maintainance of self. It is the most basic things that can be done for for your own being. It is having self respect. Just because you take care of yourself,  in a way, you tell the world how you are to be treated. Above all, you yourself remind that you are worth the care. Self care is how we heal, how we reset, and how we reclaim our peace. 

Just as someone said.

" Self care is not a luxury,

 it's a declaration 

I am worth my own time,

Energy and love.."

So this week do something that reminds you...... I MATTER.......